Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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i myself find slouching once n while but will fix it when someone is looking or watching the i find hard do is smiling cause hard do when have bad teeth some other’s said bit confusing like arm’s n or too far out same with legs I’ve noticed other women tend do it same with talking so where’s middle in doing so when have other girl’s and women doing samething only one i haven’t noticed is figeding half or most things on list i try avoid anyway
Try decaf.
WOW, It’s hard to read this… Itallrunstogether
Refreshing to have Joans comments. Accurate and astonishing open. Thank you Joan
Thank You, Melody.
I just LOVE to be appreciated.
Checked guilty in one and showed it to my fiancée and charged with 8! I denied them but she gave her case.
I will pay attention for those faults in the future.
Really good points. A lot of them apply to both male and female. The eating for sure! The conversation and human interact another. As usual you hit a home run!!!
At first I studied women and I tried to act just like them, but one day a friend told me that “I was acting like an ass and I needed to loosen up.” In fact I was, I was almost mocking women, and making a fool of myself in the process. I had some work done and I sat back took a breath and said this is now me, and this is who I am, and I’ve been Becky ever since.
Wow, Becky!! Stunning
Guilty as charged! At least on a number of those items, from time to time. Not always, but more often than I should, dang it.
I note a number of responses cite genetic women as doing most of the same no-nos. But they are still seen as women. I at least need all the help I can get to not seem too glaringly male.
One thing that helps, especially being older, not keeping too many things in my head simultaneously, is to concentrate on fixing one behavior at a time, until it’s more automatic, then move on to another.
I noted some discussion of belching. Sometimes it just has to happen, but I still have not developed a more feminine belch. If I’m lucky I can play it down most of the time. Life’s little hazards…
Thank you for the tips but to me it’s the slouching and the walking. I’m trying not to exaggerate the walk but at times I feel I do. Being alone in this venture gets aggrevating at times but I’m trying!
The hardest ones for me are the legs pitched wide, smiling, and bending for food. I fall in middle between the legs spread wide and being close together – I guess a male trait generally that I have to avoid. As for smiling – it isn’t something I do casually without a reason. Maybe I need to think of some jokes or something when in a very public setting – I do recognize it is more attractive to see a smile – so I understand that. As for bending for food – I am one who probably fits in the middle somewhere – so, thanks for bringing that up to make me more conscientious of it.
Forgot – keeping arms in close to body when using eating utensils – I imagine that’s one that could be included, right?