Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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I have had years of practice at being a woman. I was first feminized when I was a child and it has stuck with me all my life. I am now ‘en femme’ (as a woman) now full time and live totally as a woman and am a man’s wife. I do not have anything male at all anymore and when I get dressed I have to dress as a woman.
Many of us have our natural femininity that helps guide us. I know that I feel much more like a woman than I do a male. In fact I do not have any more male or masculine feelings at at all anymore. I feel like a female. Much of what I do now is what I have learned from cis women. I have had many teachers that did not know I was observing them to see what secrets and techniques I could learn. The practice what I learned.
I do not slouch cuz I have developed my own natural breasts and I like pushing my boobs out kind of like on display for people to notice. This is when I’m sitting or standing or walking. I am very proud of my C cup breasts! The girls are mine!
I do not bite my nails cuz I keep my nails done. They are what is considered a sport length, about 1/4 inch beyond the tip of my finger. My beautician does them for me once a month and in between I keep them touched up.
I only answer my phone when the chime goes off or when I make a phone call…but I do see cis women that are constantly on their phone or checking it to make sure that they did not miss anything.
I do not go into my purse unless I need something from it. My purse contents are the usual woman’s stuff including a couple of tampons.
I do not cross my arms. When standing at a relaxed position I try to keep them at my side unless I have to raise the for some reason or another. When sitting I keep my hands on my lap.
I try to be relaxed at all times and not fidget, shake my leg or tap my fingers (that’s hard on the nails ya know).
I will smile when making eye contact with someone. I normally do my lipstick for that pouty look because I was always allured to women with a pouty look.
These are some from the top of the list nd I may list some more in another post.
I am very happy being a woman.
Oh by the way, I forgot to mention I love your stories
keep them coming
amanda
Hello,
I like to people watch in mail. What I found is it depends alot on the AGE group of the women. I think that a 40 year old women moves(glides along) posture and everything else is VERY different from a women who is will say in her late 50s or early 60s. The older ones just want to get there and get it done, unless they are looking for a guy.
I have watched women in high heels, I see that there is a big difference in their walk. So what I am saying is to FOCUS on the age group that you are, not someone much younger, you will stand out for sure. This see with women, example 2, eating there is a difference between the ages
Let me know on what you think or is just me
There alot of other differences like what races, body shape
Can go on for awhile
Amanda
I think the biggest one for me is the shaking a leg. I often have nervous energy in both of my incarnations, and that is how it most often expresses itself.
But I have learned so much by just watching other ladies, both in casual and formal situations, and I’m getting more comfortable and confident in both kinds of situations.
Thank you as always, for all of your wonderful advice.
Tracy Leigh
I personally just try to behave like all the other ladies around me. I definitely make eye contact and I love talking to other women about fashion, makeup, all things girly. I’m 72 and seem to blend in now as a woman very easily. Here I am today where I bought this dress at Macy’s with help from other ladies there who were shopping too. I can’t wait to wear it this weekend for a party I am going to. Do you like it?
Suzy,
For us 70+yo, I think the dress is perfect “age appropriate” for the party.
May I suggest wearing strappy heels or nice pumps.
Looks great on you I bet it is comfortable as well
I think you look very good for a woman our age. I try to look my age so I blend in to the sorounding area.
dear lucille ,i wish icould afford your sublime breast serum could you send it to me for nothing
Seems to me that all of these apply to anyone, M or F. With the possible exception of knees together when sitting. We might add being attentive to those we are interacting with.
This was a very interesting article. I think the thing on this list I am most guilty of is not making eye contact. It is something I am really trying to work on.
“Paula”…You are “One Pretty Woman”…I love your “Legs and Nylons”.