Did you know that body language accounts for more than 50% of the impression you make on people?
That’s a big part of your feminine image!
Body language consists of four things:
- Posture
- Gestures
- Eye contact
- Facial expressions
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can ruin your female image… or at the very least, make you look less poised and polished than you want to be.
Here are 27 body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman:
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Some of these might sound obvious, but let’s face it – we’ve all seen these behaviors in public!
I believe it’s gotten even worse with cell phones. It’s become the norm to see people slouched over their phones, completely oblivious to the world around them.
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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It’s best to be who you are. Just be natural and let the femininity in you out. Everything else would be a lie.
I have seen women so many women slouching to fare back. Will on the buss or tracks train here where I live. I’ve even done it my self in the past. But most of your tips are great. I observe women allot when I’m out for my my thing. One of the things you didn’t mention is language. Not using vulgar crude, swearing. I here that from certain types of people a little more when I’m out. Witch it’s not flattering even when quietly talking with someone.
I have been dressing for as long as I can remember. I am 68 and have never felt more at ease presenting my feminine side. I believe us ‘mature’ ladies who dress our age get less scrutiny than when we were younger trying to keep up with young fashions. So ladies, don’t let age stop us! Regardless of your age just get out there and express yourself!
Lucille, can’t thank you enough for the forum and valuable tips you provide on your site!!
I don’t get out very often but getting in and out of a car in a short skirt while trying to be ladylike has always been a challenge. That also goes for driving in high heels and keeping knees reasonably close together.
I found this list very helpful.
Wish that I looked like you how do you it
You are so beautiful girl
Ohhhhh, very nice and sexy
I like any advise about what a woman goes through just to get a man to notice her.once you get your first man to flirt with you ,it will explain why its worth your efforts.Thankyou,
Sara
Exactly I get men flering hiting on me allot. Even know I identify as a lesbian with a fluid sexuality, it’s good to be noticed as your female self.
I’m afraid I am guilty of many of those on your list posture being a big one ! Are there any way to discipline myself to keep showing good posture ?
I read all of the tips you mentioned and agreed with most of them
One thing that you didn’t mention is to always sit down with your feet pointed in the right direction when using a ladies room
You’d be surprised how many females look at the bottom of the stall door when their looking for a empty stall.
It could keep you from having a embarrassing situation
I would find it difficult to sit down and have my feet point in the opposite direction.
Yes, the socially excepted proper pee pee position can only be obtained when all angular leg positions coincide with the close proximity of the ginglymus joints which are perpendicular to the parallel degrees of the pes extremities. And there you have it!
I believe you should ensure your feet are together, facing forward, like all the GG’s (girl girls) seem to practice, or even “toes inwardly” a bit? works for me!
Very polite way to say it Morgan! I was in a support group a while back and one of the ladies was complaining about getting yelled at for using the women’s restroom because she stood up to pee. I sort of lost it and said rather curtly, “WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? If you are a woman, then BE a woman! Sit down or you are ASKING to be driven out AND you are just making it difficult for the rest of us.”
Just curious Janine, but what is the “right” direction for your feet when using a restroom stall?
Thanks
The right direction would be pointing away from the toilet. Someone standing to urinate would not have feet pointing away from the bowl…