It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Many of us grow into the names we are given at birth. Others never feel a connection to their name.
But crossdressers and transgender women have the unique advantage of being able to choose their feminine names.
There’s a unique story behind every great femme name… and I’d love to hear YOURS!
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please share your story in the comments below. And for extra credit, include a photo! It’s even better to be able to place a name to a face.
I had been friends with a girl named Sarah for many years. I was always amazed with her grace, charm, style, and intelligence. She had moved out of the state and I hadn’t seen her in many years, so I adopted the name Sarah out of my respect for her.
For my middle name, Elizabeth, I had always just liked that name. To me, Elizabeth is just a very feminine sounding name, and it just rolls well as a middle name.
My last name is just a shortening of my given last name “Stevenson”. I thought about just using that, but then I thought that if my family disowned me, which they eventually did do, for coming out as trans, there would be some separation there. That’s why I went with ” Stevens ” for my last name.
So, for a month or so, I was Sarah Elizabeth Stevens, but during that time the name Sarah just didn’t fit me. All of my girlfriends saw it too, and wanted to rename me. One was insistent that I should be Elizabeth not knowing it was my middle name.
Finally, one night. I was leaving the club, and when I walked outside there was a girl that I had never seen before. She walked right up to me and said, “Hey, what’s your name?” It took me a little off guard, so I hesitated and then said, “Sarah.” She replied, “No, Sarah isn’t you, Sahara, that’s a good name. Yes you should be your name.” Then she turned and walked away. As she left, I could here her repeat, “yes, Sahara is s good name.”
I never saw that girl again, but I did have to admit that I liked the name, so I tried it on and it stuck. I love my name. It’s not just my name, it is me. I am Sahara. I also like that names ties to Africa and I believe that we are all one people, one race, human. Africa is the birthplace of humanity, and the Sahara is so much a part of Africa, just as we are all part of Africa.
Mine is just the feminine form of my mail name.
The first time I felt I needed a feminine name, it was the first name that popped into my head.
While I never liked being called Jackie as a guy, I’ve grown quite comfortable with it as a woman
What Fun..My real name I go by is Gloria.I love the name Gloria. I find it attractive and exciting. Once in a while i use Carmen but prefer Gloria.Gloria was my first girl friend,
When I first started cross dressing for extended periods I felt quite different from my male persona and so adopted the name Carol – from a favorite character. However, this caused some confusion among my friends with whom I interacted in both personas. Recently I’ve transitioned pretty much 24/7 and felt so comfortable that I decided to drop Carol and just go with my original “male” name: Pat. Luckily it goes both ways, and my friends are greatly relieved!
I was pretty easy, I asked my mother. She informed me that there were three names that she thinking about if I was born a girl…Mary (which I do not care for), Carol Ann (which I thought was to 50ish) and Allison.
As for my middle name, I chose Marie, which was my late wife’s middle name. I think Allison Marie has a nice ring and flow to it.
I can’t really say why Mia it just feels right. After I started using it i started noticing others named Mia and feel a connection. Lavender has always been my favorite color at first I just used it ad a last name afraid of being found out. Then after I opened up to my family it became my middle name, I still often use it as a last name in situations where I worry about the connection. I got approved and started my medical testing and approval for HRT but my worries continue tovwar with my needs so I still live as a man in public 🙁
Hi…I chose my name by walking my dog one day, looked on the ground seen something shinning…I picked it up….it was a cute heart shape pendant with the name Danielle in the middle of the heart shape, at the time I didn’t have a name…I thought the pendant and the name was so cute, and decided I would use that name, and it has stuck with me for over 10 yrs….I love the name, and all the compliments I recieve from everyone I meet., who know me as Danielle 🙂
When I first got a computer and got online with AOL, I needed a screen name. My first name was William and My wifes first name was linda. I wanted to include both names in to our home page on AOL. Then I needed a name and Willinda had a ring to oit. Been my name since 1999.