Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
Yes I like to pass, and hence try my best in everyway in how I dress and my manner in order to blend in and not stand out. Just as important to me is being treated as any other “girl” and living as any other girl does in day to day happenings. I so much wish to pass and feel feminine, that I even wish to experience all the negative aspect’s of life that any other girl has to deal with, not just the lovely positive aspects of being a girl. I have even taken it to the point were I have pretend periods, and wear pads for a week, and have no sex for that week (however I have broken that rule a couple times when I’ve meet a guy I really really like). Is anyone else like me out there, or am I just strange? Lilia
In my quest to deepen my feminine experience, I have tried adopting particular attitudes, such as seeing men as menacing when I am walking to my car or espousing the wonders of chocolate to others. : )
And I must add that when I am in female mode, I find I’m totally attracted to men and so want to be with them socially and sexually. Yet when I am not in female mode, I’m attracted to girls. I’m strange I know. Do other CD girls feel this way? Lilia
Hi Lilia! I know exactly how you feel when I am in female mode! When I get dressed up I think about how hot it would be to be with a sexy man and find men very attractive and exciting! When I am not in female mode I am very attracted to beautiful women and love everything about them! HUGS!! Tiffany : )
Lilia, I feel the exact same way towards men ! When I’m a man, I could care less….but when Rhonda comes out, I’m ready to attack a good looking man.
I usualy pass or so im told lol!
‘Passing’ – ugh! Such an ugly word that implies lies and deception. I dress for who I am. I am not out to deceive anyone.
If people stare at me, it is usually because they don’t know how to react, and I’m OK with that.
I dress to blend in with other women around me and I don’t get much trouble.
The only places I do avoid is where the local bars are kicking out at closing time.
Drunk patrons and trans folk is not a healthy mix.
Passing is nice, but for me it is more about acceptance and feeling pretty–whether I am or not. I’m out there to have fun and I want the people around me to have fun too. Simply being able to pass doesn’t help shyness. Go out there, be yourself–accept yourself, and most people will like you and want to get to know you.
“Passing” is the goal for sure. It would great to be able to walk down the street in broad daylight and only get admiring looks. But there are aspects of my physicality that I can’t practically change. So I’m selective and careful about where and when I venture out in public, and I’m okay with that.
I love it when I get told by women and TG friends that I actually
look and move like a real woman, even though I feel there is more work to do with makeup. One reason I can pass is I do not try to look like a drag queen, and I can shop at normal department stores, Venus, and Victoria’s Secret/other, so that my clothes are current and tasteful.
I also like it when I get “nasty” looks from other CD’S/other that I look better than them.
Of course I like to pass, but what is really important is to feel confident and happy when I can be female. It does show and I have been complemented on several occasions. However, I am still working on passing 🙂
Here is a picture taken randomly from my collection. You tell me if I’m passable. I feel that I am…
Kisses, Rhonda
Wow Rhonda! You truly do look passable! Hugs! Tiffany : )
Thanks SO much, Tiffany !
You look awesome Rhonda, very natural!
Andie, Thanks SO much ! I truly love being a girl ! I find when I am in feminine attire that I act, think, and have the same emotions as a girl…..I cry easily ……and when I am in bitch mode….watch out !! I stay a bitch….but as a man, everything just rolls off my back.
Kisses, Rhonda