Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Attention.. that comment will include some ranting becuase well.. I am that kind of person that rants a lot. 😛
Well.. I want to print a sentence about “it being okay for a female to dress like a tomboy but when a boy does it he is a fag” (shortened), frame it and hammer it on my wall. Not literally but hell I can’t stress this enough… because I have really noticed one thing in the LGBT community. In most cases women are less supportive of men. Maybe because the majority of the LGBT community consists of females (at least here where I live) and most of these are pretty much those pesky feminists that I seriously despise. No really, I don’t understand feminists.. it’s not like only women have problems because of their gender.. men have it harder in other points of their life. Like if a woman does a job that is “meant for men” she is some kinda role-model that women can do these jobs too, but when men do a job “meant for girls” they are “faggots” and “weak”. (Only an example of strict gender roles)
Now back to the point.. I’ve already had girlish features.. not just an androgynous body but also I kinda started “crossdressing” at the age of 7.. though I got beat up by my father for that and so I kinda lived a lot of years as a homophobic person to avoid that side of me. At the age of 15 I discovered.. “Lol I don’t give a fuck actually”.. I just stopped fearing that side of me and embraced it.. why? Well I found this singer caled “Yohio” and he kinda inspired me even though he only crossdressed for show, it still gave me some kinda.. you know.. the thing.
And this is where stress started to build up. It is not relieving stress.. it just creates stress. A lot of that. I am glad that some people had rather supportive families.. but if you do not you are gonna have a really hard time.. especially as a teenager. The fact that the LGBT community here is rather unsupportive makes it even harder. I don’t feel guilty.. I just hide that side because I fear to be judged too much. I fear to loose friends and I fear my family finding out.
That’s why I HATE.. I really >HATE< when people say "Then they are bad friends, get new ones.".. I literally want to punch anyone who spouts something like this. If you can just say "Lol I don't care I'll just get new friends" then it's not THEM who are bad friends.. then YOU are just as bad or even worse. Because if you can just switch friends like that you never really cared about those people. Because if you care about someone letting them go is REALLY REALLY GODDAMN HARD. And the more you care about someone the more you fear loosing them because of being yourself.
Next point… being a teenager in the LGBT community. It's… to say it in one word.. bullshit. The most people are already adults and offer few to no support for teenagers as they are simply not their peers. I mean sure.. teenager can hang out with other teenagers.. just that well.. not the biggest fun when you're in a room with maybe 2 people who are your age. I see a lot of people having struggles with coming out to their wife.. already being married and I'm like "Okay and I am there hidding it from my family because otherwise I may get beat up really bad. Get bullied in school. Fail my future, grow up to a shit-kind of person and so on and so on."
I wish that one time there will be more support for teenage members of the LGBT Community.
Lucy, 17
Hi,
I forgot to add, If people are trying to put you down, remember, one of the benefits of wearing French tips is that it looks more elegant when you give them the finger!! Hee.
Heather.
Hi,
What?? are you MAD!! Like hell have I ever felt guilty about being myself.
If you like expressing your Feminine side or wish to live full time as a Trans-sexual or need to completely change your body with hormones and surgery then DO IT. The Transgender community has a terrible suicide rate, about 30% by the age of 40, do not become a statistic, If it makes you happy then get on with living it.
If your friends don’t like it then they are shit friends, get new ones, 1% of the population have gender issues, you are not alone.
As for family, I have always kept in touch and over the years they have come to except the change. Remember it is always the beginning of your transition that will shock your family, give them time. I knew my mum had excepted me when she helped me tight-lace my leather and satin overbust corset, she laughed and said “well, I never thought I’d be doing this when you were born!”, we laughed, then hugged, then cried, we’ve been fine ever since.
As for strangers, if they have a problem with what you are doing then it’s just that, THEIR PROBLEM!! not YOUR PROBLEM!!
I am truly proud to be a member of the Transgendered community. I do a lot of legal work trying to stop discrimination in the work place, housing law and criminal justice system. I get to meet hundreds of our kind and have never disliked one person, we are a remarkable minority. BE PROUD.
Loads of love n hugs to you all.
Heather Anne Exley, 43, UK.
It’s good to have such confidence.. but the saying
“If your friends don’t like it then they are shit friends, get new ones, 1% of the population have gender issues, you are not alone.”
Has kinda got me angry. No offense.. but honestly, if you care “that much” for your friends that you can just “replace” them then it’s not them who are shit friends.. and if they are you are just as bad as they are if not even worse. I may be just a peksy teenager ranting but I am generally struggling when it comes to friends because I care about them and I fear loosing them because they maybe will try to avoid me.. I mean they know I like dudes and they don’t care but I fear being laughed or ridiculed for crossdressing. I mean, I probably wouldn’t, but the fear is still there even if you know that your friends are caring and won’t judge you for something like that.
I even pity you a bit if you never really had the experience of true friends.. which I assume as you say “just get new ones.”
And I am glad your family is that supportive.. though a lot of families are not. If I outed myself oh lawd.. I mean I already am the black sheep of the family, if I outed myself I’d probably be outcast or even thrown out of the family. Usually I would feel the same way as you feel for friends.. “Just get yourself a new family”.. because I literally don’t care for mine, in my oppinion they can go die in a hole and I wouldn’t care.. but well, replacing family is kinda.. hard as you need a place to live at till you can move out and I honestly don’t wanna waste my youth in depression and probably end up in suicide at the age of 25+ because I wasted the potential I had to build up a feminine look for the future.
I already do have a androgynous body.. but well, the thing is that I have male genes and one day they will do their thing and I want to avoid that.. but of course female hormones are only available for transgenders…
Another point of the LGBT community I kinda despise.. next to almost no support for the youth, there is also little support for the Genderqueer part.
I don’t really see any pride in being a member of the LGBT community but it may be because I’m a teen and most adults don’t really give a fuck about us. Society norm doing it’s job even in the LGBT community. I guess people try too much to fit in with their sexuality and call it “being themselves” instead of actually being themselves.
Though what I say are big words from a coward who only was able to tell his best friends about it.
Lucy, 17
Oh and just something additional:
Probably I’m just not really proud for being part of the LGBT community because I had a rather negative experience with the people. I was mostly bored and alone and had no one to talk to if there were any meetings. I guess you can even be different among the different. 😛 (And still they complain to me if I don’t use the right terms.. like if they don’t really care about me they shouldn’t expect me to do so.)
I came out to my girlfriend of 4 years (now ex) about a year and a half ago. Needless to say, it completely destroyed our relationship and friendship. At times she would be supportive, she even tried looking into ordering clothes online for me. Then other times she would be completely angry and resentful towards me. She would tell me that I am lying to my parents and my friends and nobody knows who I really am. To me, it was nobody’s business except for ours. A month ago, I just kicked her out on her ass. Couldn’t take it anymore.
I do feel ashamed of being a crossdresser. I also wish I never told her. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It has been a part of me since I was 12. The first person I tell this to, uses this to shame me. She always threatened to tell the world “my secret” That is the only reason I even stayed in the relationship since things got “ugly” She still might even end up telling everyone if I piss her off by not talking to her anymore.
Stacey, I think you did the right thing telling her, you found out which side of the line
you stood with her.
Elvis Presley the singer had a good saying, if it was his!
But the quote went; never condem what you don’t understand!
Hence alot of people have got alot of learning to do haven’t they
So concisely put. One of my big resentments has been that society restricts males to a very limited and narrow clothing range and style and even material and colour. Contrast the ladies who can dress in anything from overalls, camouflage gear and heavy boots with scagged back hair to dainty pink satin dresses and heels and blond flowing hair everything is accepted.
My wife is totally against cross dressing and caught me 10 years ago. It upset her and there were many tears. She thought she knew me and there was a great sense of betrayal. She thinks cross dressing is a perversion and likes men to be men and look like men. Like most crossdressers, I find it difficult, if not impossible to stop so I have to be very discreet and it does become stressful wondering if she is going to stumble upon some carelessly left clue. Knowing how much my dressing upsets her I have, of necessity, to be devious at times but this is better than having her upset and, at the end of the day, it is not harming anyone and makes me feel better by connecting with my femme self. I remain frustrated that I cannot express my femme self more openly and more often.
Hello Jennella,
I understand your comments, wife upset about my crossdressing, difficult, if not impossible to stop. I’ve purged a number of times but I always end up shopping to replace. Stressful wondering if she is going to stumble upon some carelessly left clue. Always on the look out for an opportunity to dress, 1 hour or 3 hours what a heavenly gift. lol
I came out to my wife 13 years ago. Was touch and go for a month or so, then it went into a downward spiral. I given a choice (us), if I promised to never crossdress again or crossdressing. I knew I could never keep that promise, and I told her that. My fate was sealed. We had four young children at the time and I didn’t want them to also turn against me. Long story short, she took a job in the city just south of where we lived, the kids fussed about leaving their school/friends, I was getting the paper work ready to turn in so I could transfer my job to that city, she didn’t want to move our problems there and didn’t want to move the kids. So the children and I stayed, she came home on the weekends. Fast forward to Feb 2 2014, I came out to one of my daughters and she questioned in disbelief “this is why Mom doesn’t like you” She told me “Doesn’t matter I Love You, Dad” Week later I spoke with my other daughter. She told me she already knew, Mom told her three years ago. Mom has also told the boys. From this daughter I was also told that she thinks Mom was upset that they all where like ” ok so Dad likes to crossdress, this is know big deal” WOW what an eye opener for me. I haven’t been able to bring myself to talk to my boys about it. Maybe one day soon.
Believe it or not we are still married, on paper. I have been devoted to raising my children and keeping my head on straight, but living in fear. Divorce is in the near future, that makes me feel guilty about being a crossdresser. I’ve been more afraid of losing those I love and need in my life, my children, as I did with my high school sweet heart (wife).
Make peace with your past so it want screw up the present. Work in progress. LOL
What a really silly question to ask a transsexual why would we feel guilty or ashamed?
It’s not necessarily the doing bit, but where you’re doing it and with whom, read the previous story to yours-to what that person has to do. Finding out
about the herbs has been the greatest thing to have
happened to me, but I still have be semi-closet
dresser because I still have to get on with life.
AND YES I LOVE BEING PART TRANS-SEX, having
these 2 bumps on my chest.
Of course I don’t feel comfortable with the entire situation. Let’s be honest, its what I can only describe as my own mental illness. I’ve been in therapy for the past 5 years, and actually am beginning to be less interested in crossdressing, and it actually feels good. I can’t repair how it has affected my marriage, however it’ll likely get worked out.
The one aspect is the fact I think it is odd how many people select a female name. People in the Trans group I attended for nearly 4 years all had these female names that and the therapist would refer to them a “girls.” Really, I simply used my real name. I must say I did work at looking the best, but inside I am still just me, and not a she. There was a time I wished felt like the way the others described themselves, but no, never happend. In the beginning too I would search for hours to find the correct clothes to purchase or how to apply my make-up, and now, not so much. I’m just being honest with myself, and it feels fine.
A very wise TG person one wrote ” To thine ownself be true” to do otherwise would be deceitful to everyone you know, most importantly, yourself.
I’m happy you have found your path Rick,
be happy
I’m engaged and can’t wait to be married but I am also transgender and wish to be a woman and my fience hates this I don’t know what to do I need to be with her there is no question but I also need to be a woman what do I fo
Catie, you are between a rock and a hard place.
You have to work out your priority, but seems you’re expected to be fair dinkum to your fiancee, but is she genuine to you?.Can you be genuine to her in the future if you want to go down the path of being a woman.
I also have decided to transform into feminism.pls suggest me about increase the size breast.
Your fiance hates part of who you are? Is suicide, albeit partial, acceptable to you? If so marry her and become what she expects of you. Otherwise, choose to be yourself. Find a woman who will love you for who you really are, not what they want from you or for you to be.
I know I have told people that I have to hide my true self at present, but I have never not told the truth when asked. It has cost me jobs, my wife of 27 yrs, a relationship with my daughter; but I am, and will continue, to finally put my life in proper order.
I tried so hard at one point to ‘change myself’ that the only option i saw was to remove myself from this world. Fortunately, in a moment of clarity, I discovered that it is not I that has the problem, but the society built on rigid and misinterpreted mono-theological views.