If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Ok haven’t tried wearing I dress out yet but I would love a short dress with my long legs. I normally wear short hot pants and heels
Try painting your toes no one will know and it makes you feel feminine
I always under-dress. At least panties, bra, camisole, pantyhose and/or OB girdle & nylons. Since this past fall, I’ve been dressing every day completely. Jeans with belt, shirts and flats, sometimes even short heels. It just feels so liberating and very natural now.
I do go out occasionally fully in a dress, makeup, wig, jewelry, etc. Love going to shopping at outlet malls.
I wear panties and a toe ring also keep my toes polished
Beth I usually go out in my bra and panties and sometimes stockings under my boy clothes
If I can get away with it. I try to wear panties.
Try painting your toes no one will know and it makes you feel feminine
I haven’t been brave enough to try it yet. I’m finally with someone who’s ok with it and backs me . But I’m not confident enough. I actually think I’m very attractive! I dress undercover alot. Still great!
This year as far as I can I plan to wear more than 5 Parts of womens
clothing. Bras, panties, pantyhose, girls’ jeans, tops and perhaps blouses.
That all will make me feel more girly nad happy.
When I’m out of town I dress completely heels and all. The guys at gay bars seem to love it
I find that I can wear 100% femme clothing without attracting attention as so much of it is unisex these days. The only thing that might give me away are button up on the other side of say a jacket. Even shoes with heels are fairly discreet, as are small forms in my bra. Just go for it.
Although I do not stay dressed in outerwear as a woman all day, I start each day in a mini-dress with a slip and/or panties. I take time to make sure my hair looks good. Then, I read Lucile’s tips, check ads for dresses and heels online and daydream/meditate about being a gorgeous lady who is wearing those dresses and heels. It does not take long to get my day started as a woman and I ENJOY it: Like the song says, “I enjoy being a girl”. Love, Zara.
Jo,
Thank You for your kind thoughts! Being a true girl: I LOVE it. My mindset seems to be changing. When I see a woman these days, instead of thinking “She looks fabulous!”, now I’m thinking “She looks Fabulous and I’d look Fabulous wearing her outfit”!
Love,
Zara
xoxoxo
Great ideas to bring you into being a true girl every day.
Hi ladies! Just wondering how many of you venture out in these Covid times? I go out all the time! In fact it seems wearing a mask almost makes it easier! I’m always treated as a lady wherever I go! I love it! Not bad for a 74 year old gal, huh? Have fun and be safe! Hugs, Suzy
The mask is a good idea maybe I will try that then I can wear all my girlie clothes and heels
Funny, I was thinking the same thing this last week — masks seem to make it easier to be, I’m not sure what the word is — ”anonymous” maybe, more low profile, less obvious? Maybe because it hides the afternoon shave shadow? Not sure which of those best describes the perks of mask wearing these days but I get it.