If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your feminine side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear women’s underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your female self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try stealth crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply incognito makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the power of scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Look at reminders of your female self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try feminizing hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I have thrown out all my male clothes. I wear panties and bra and T shirt and womens jeans and tennis shoes to work everyday. I am currently looking for female boots to buy I also wear perfume and secret deodorant. I even went to work wearing clear nail polish and a little makeup. I even carry a female wallet when shopping. I am trying to grow my hair out any help with growing hair faster woul be greatly appreciated. It is awesome being female. Love it
Whenever I’m in the male mode, I wear panties under my jeans. I also use a pantylner in my panties, to remind me to take smaller steps and always sit with my legs crossed
Good girl, Janine, for wearing a liner, simply to keep your panties from becoming soiled after going to the ladies (powder) room…!
When I first started searching transwomen on the internet, I was amazed that many of us have had similar ideas, emotions and experiences. Like the need to retain some type of femininity while in male mode such as an article of clothes, jewelry or painted nails. I was blown away when I found that others were purging, secretly wearing lingerie and nylons under their clothes or work uniforms. There wasn’t much info on crossdressing back when and being I’m in the 60+ group, I had to come up with my own ideas. At that time I thought I was just one weirdo being clever…but no…apparently you all are just as weird.
Wow Morgan!! I felt excactly the same when I first found others on the internet that were like me! It felt so refreshing knowing that there was a whole community of us through out the world. I’m 53 years of age and its not an accepted life style among most of my peers and family so I choose secrecy. It feels nice to be able to discuss it with others too. I always have dreams in my sleep about getting caught wearing panties in public somewhere. No one in the dream ever speaks to me but their look makes me feel like I’ve let everyone down. I think that’s why I choose secrecy in real life. Having said that, I still wear panties under my jeans almost daily. I usually wear feminine deodorant and lotion and sometimes I sneak a pair of nylons on under my jeans too. Painted toe nails and a pink hair gummie help the feminine feeling also.
I do many things. Like I wear only women’s clothes outside of cosplaying. Always get my nails and eyebrows done. I will soon have multiple pieces of jewelry with the name Julie on it sweetie. I try to be Julie all the time honey. I plan to begin the switch next year which will allow me to be Julie 24/7 girl friend.
I love wearing women’s panties and painting my toenails. I also paint my finger nails when I go walking as part of my exercise. It really does the job….makes me feel very feminine.
i keep my toes done all the time. I wear panties all the time. I do not own a pair of mens underwear. I often wear stockings under my slacks. I always wear clear mascara. during covid and the mask mandate I would offer wear lip stick or heavy shiny gloss.
I let me fingernails grow quite long and use a light pinks nail polish, and use me bras and panties pretty much every day.
Any of you girls like to wear wedges. Thinking of buying a pair I think they will go good with my blue hot pants and my blue toes