If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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When bending down to pick something up what’s the easiest way to do it? Especially since I just love to wear skirts or dresses, mostly skirts though!
Knees together, let your hands run down your legs as you bend your knees to move straight down, letting your legs shift slightly away from the direction of whatever you’re picking up. Once you’ve got it, stand back up in reverse. It’s an elegant ladylike manner to bend down even in short skirts.
I’d like to know the same thing, as I am frequently dropping things and bending over to pick them up and I also wear skirts (although mine are long enough as to not cause a problem in that regard).
Hi Lucille,I m a cross dresser of 24.I m sexually interested in males.so is it wrong or normal???
If that’s how you are, that’s how you are. Normal is subjective. My idea of normal is not the same as other peoples ideas of normal. Some people, come communities, some religious groups might say it is wrong but that is just their belief. You are who you are, you only get one life, be happy in yourself.
All on point. Stretching and Dancing are wonderful aids to presenting oneself in a feminine way. good luck. you can do it!
I would like to know if there secret for keeps knees together. I had hip surgery and doctor doesn’t want me to cross my legs at knees. I am experimenting any suggestions.
You were so right about how to feminize the way to walk. Aside from taking shorter, slower steps, walking so that your thighs brush each other absolutely made for a femme gait and naturally causes that wonderful hip sway. I’ve spent hours having fun walking in front of my mirror.
Thanks so much for all your tips sweetie.
Every morning I walk the dogs and practice my walk. I bend at the knees when I clean up their mess. All the weekends we especially go for a long walk where it’s really private in neighborhood wooded Path. There I am free to do almost anything. There I can really get my stroll on and since I’ve been in this walk I have developed a natural twist in my hips that I can’t turn off. I also record myself doing a lot of things and when I am trying to mimic is movement or act a certain way I can see if it looks natural or forced then I can make adjustments so I can look and feel natural when doing it. I found out that when I’m not paying attention to my surroundings or really forcing my movements they are more fluid and natural. Coming of age I realize that everybody doesn’t have feminine movements or ways or even shapes. I just tried to be comfortable being me there for my movements become comfortable and natural.
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You look fabulous girl…
Sounds like you have all the right Moves!
Enjoy being you!
Beautiful outfit!
Dr.T.J.
Lucille,
As always, greats tips for going out. The enjoyment of being Barbara is slowing down and becoming a graceful woman. Taking time to enjoy the movement and living in the action and excitement of what sets us free.
Have fun dressing and going out!
Barbara Jane
You are gorgeous Barbara, I could only hope to become half the woman you are!!
Relax and move gracefully. Talk with you hands and eyes. Just don’t be jumpy and erratic and keep your hands out front.
Very Pretty! You make a lovely woman.