If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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I agree we must always be critical of ourselves and how we move I truly wish to be more like the women I grew up watching it will be an honor to emulate them
I do like a lot of those shows Mary Tyler Moore has always been a favorite, Sally Field, Barbara Eden, and many more to really start watching more closely their movements once again thank you Lucille
I do need to practice my movements I used to be very graceful and maybe still am somewhat but since I have gotten tight & stiff I think due to stress partly I used to practice martial arts and studied a little Bruce Lee but he didn’t survive long anyway although fast he was very fluid be like water so now I’ll be like slow water or try at least it will take time I realize I have reflexes that I need to try and lose maybe I just need to smooth out some areas of movement I will try and get a camera or a smart phone with video but have to wait
Watch and Practice
Gestures, deportment, colors and style, ++
Hulu.com
Bewitched
The Doris Day Show
Lavern and Shirley
The Mary Tyler Moore Show
Plus other classics illustrating feminine women
These episodes are streaming, so they can be stopped and replayed.
Write down the technique you are practicing along with the episode and time.
Later, days, weeks, whatever review your technique and critique yourself on paper.
If you do not critique yourself, then how would you subjectively know if there is an improvement.
All movements and techniques should appear relaxed and natural.
The desired presentation is to appear feminine, not effeminate.
History of my name: few years back Ms O’Toole was a psychic and would feature a sign in Transformation Magazine. Well she skipped Gemini, which I am so she referred to me as Robin,after I wrote to her. Since my male name is Robert. I always liked Jennifer Love Hewitt so I took Robin as my first Femme name & Jennifer as my middle, and Voile that is how I came up with my femme name Robin Jennifer.
I learned watching an old movie and its true when walking in heels practice like your walking on a balance beam one foot in front of the other it gives a natural hip movement when at home I practice moving my hips extra swing wear something silky,satin or tight so you can feel your hips move till it becomes part of your walk also women walk with there shoulders back chest out there backs have a little extra curve. My genetic girl friend told me they use to practice there walk when they were younger
Any tips for keeping your knees together when sitting up? I find it very tiring even for a few minutes, because my legs constantly want to relax into guy sitting mode (you know, slightly parted). After several minutes my legs start to shake from the muscle fatigue. I’ve been practicing for a while now but I can’t really feel any improvement, I figure my technique might be completely wrong from the get-go.
I’ve found that sitting with the legs tilted (diagonal) helps a little but is not always appropriate and gets uncomfortable on the hips/lower back after a while.
I mentioned this in another post: a real incentive to keep your knees together, is to wear a short skirt with no underwear. It’s a powerful motivation!
knees
When sitting, tie legs together with a belt above the knee.
Eventually the body becomes accustomed with no conscious effort.
Standing Up, Sitting Down
Bending Down, Standing Up
For many it is difficult to do while keeping knees and feet together.
Basically what is needed is to strengthen calf, knee, and thigh muscles
with basic exercises.
If you have never performed these moves in a feminine manner before,
then how can you expect to accomplish them with unused muscles?
Try tucking one ankle behind the other, and tucking both feet slightly under your chair.
at least cross your ankles
I have always found the best way to learn hip movement for walking is to slowly and easily walk up and do the stairs. It works I. Heals just as well as in flats, socks, or sneaks. It’s also a great way to slip in a little girly feeling in the midst of a male week at work or home when family is there.