When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Labels are just words that try to convey the meaning of things, actions or ideas, they are only a simile. People try to box things in labels, shelfs and categories, to make believe they understand. You will only know what an apple tastes like until you eat one. You can only start to understand the world of diversity until you cross the doorway, and then and only then maybe you will start to comprehend…So to be honest the only important thing is to know what is real to yourself, and have the integrity to stand up for it…So whatever the words, I know that I am a woman!!!
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I am trans-gender but I am also androgenous and since I don’t plan on surgery i am no-op while I enjoy presenting as a woman ,I also enjoy some guy time …which makes me gender fluid and because I havee a male body and wear the clothing of females I am a cross dresser and a transvestite…how ever I have no clothing fetishes….I am just me
Since I am now full time I would describe myself as a woman and I do find i am treated as such in most of the places I go to. I do sometimes use the terms transsexual or tranny at times, normally with people i know.
Lucille and all,
Thank you for this chance to voice my thoughts. Lucille, I have followed you for some time. You may remember me as the founder of a Yahoo group for men with breasts. As to the topic, I think the only name anyone should go by is their “NAME”.
I am a male who fits just fine into a 42B bra, and do a lot of things considered ‘female’. Yet I hold on to my male idenity. Clerks at stores address me as a woman somtimes, and I understand why. Long hair, ear rings, perhaps a touch of make-up to hide age, hairless face and body, and clothing colors men don’t consider. I am not close to any of the names from the question. I am not being anything or any body but me. Me is someone who understands we are “all” part female and part male, and I let both be free within me.
I do not live by what others think of me or how they may decide to ‘label’ me in their closed mind. I do not live for these people, I live for me.
I am my words, my deeds, my name.
Smiles
Warren
I don’t mind how people describe me. In polite company I would use the ter ‘crossdresser’, otherwise transvestite or tranny.
Hi Lucille, I understand your dilemma as I was confused once. I started research and reading by experienced, knowledgeable TG /TS women to help me clear up the confusion I was suffering. Allow me to suggest my favorites. I commend Julia Serano author of “Whipping Girl” – A transexual Woman on Sexism and the scapegoating of Femininity. I also love “The Transgender Companion (MtoF)- The Complete Guide to Becoming the Woman You Want to Be” by Jennifer Seeley. Julia has to be the best authority on us going around. I admit her work can be heavy going, but if we don’t do the meters or struggle to improve our intellects, then we stay ignorant and can’t help explain ourselves. Now, everyone, whatever the label has our own story and is an individual. That being said, I consider Julia’s work I listed would have to be the most authoritive. She is our advocate in my opinion. I’d recommend her to anybody that seriously wants to sort it all out. On the other hand, there are those who are ignorant; not just “straight” people, but also those who come under the LGBTI umbrella. Some of us just guess at what we might be, others incorrectly label themselves and it shows due to their poor ability in explaining themselves. Some of us are very accurate at identifying ourselves and sadly some either don’t know and/or don’t care, but irrespective of that everyone deserves respect or to be treated with dignity. I can tell disingenuous bigots though, by the smirk on their face, or facial expression and tone of voice and the ignorant terminologies they use when the ask, “What are you?”. I ask them:”Are you serious/genuine or are you just wasting my time! If you want to really understand, I’ll help you to the best of my ability. If not go away and enjoy your stupidity and PREJUDICE and stop wasting my time.
Lucille, you are genuine and want to help us. THANKYOU! Finally, I call myself, a transgendered person. I believe I am female, but due to a biological inaccuracy in conception, and the fact that mainstream society doesn’t know the difference between sex and gender, they got me wrong from the start. It all happened when for ease or laziness parents,educators and so called authorities wanted to treat humans as either girls or boys for their convenience sake, rather than human beings. (Yes girl and boy is a label too). You know, the boys will line up here, and the girls will line up there. Mary make up your mind! Are you a girl or boy. Johnnie, do I have to have a special line for you and Mary??!! and so it goes. Some children teased us and fortunately others felt ashamed that we were treated unfairly. Yes, I’ll be in transition till the day I die. However, I know I’ll die happy as I’ve been struggling harder and harder to achieve my ‘realignment’. I am so proud that our community has so many courageous, clever, intellegent women. Thankyou Lucille for your sisterly devotion and for helping me and all my gorgeous sisters, both GG & TG or TS etc., Love to all, A very contented Jaine.
I haven’t given myself a label at the moment. I have just beagan to develop my breasts using herbs and feels so proud as I look at them. Where this journey will take me I don’t know but one thing I do know it is a journey i want to take.