Did you know you only have 7 seconds to make a first impression?
After that, a person’s judgments have been made and are almost impossible to change.
So how can you be sure people see you as the fabulous female that you are?
I won’t lie… good looks help. But it’s often the little details that make or break a first impression.
Here are my top 5 ways to make a feminine first impression:
1. Know what you want to project
First, you have to know what you want to project:
- Is your goal to blend in as an everyday girl?
- Or do you want to stick out as a gender-bending fashion diva?
- Do you want to be recognized for your style and sophistication?
- Or do you simply want people to notice your great legs? 🙂
When you know what you want to project, you can then determine if your appearance and attitude get the message across.
2. Be aware of your body language
Body language is critical to first impressions. You never want to look nervous, ashamed, or on the opposite end of the spectrum, arrogant.
Your posture and body language should tell the world that you’re a classy, confident woman who deserves respect.
Here are 27 body language mistakes that can detract from a feminine first impression. Avoid them at all costs!
3. Wear the right color
Did you know that 50% of all non-verbal messages come from color? Amazing but true!
The color you wear has a strong subconscious impact on how people perceive you – especially when you present yourself as a woman.
Different colors have different meanings (more on that here), so consider what the colors that you wear communicate.
Even more importantly, you should wear colors that flatter you and make you feel great.
4. Check your grooming habits
Studies show that physical attractiveness is mostly based on “self care” – that is, good grooming, neat hair, and nice clothes.
That’s great news because presentation is something you can control! After all, most of us weren’t born supermodels, but anyone can take the time to look the part.
Grooming can make or break a first impression, so be sure your standards are up to par. Here are 5 feminine grooming habits that should be part of your regular routine.
5. Make eye contact
Your eyes reveal more about you than you probably realize. Avoiding eye contact gives the impression that you have low self-esteem or have something to hide.
Confident eye contact puts people at ease and wins respect. That’s definitely a plus for a positive first impression.
So be bold, look people in the eye, and don’t forget to smile!
What kind of impression do YOU want to make?
There’s a lot to be said about this topic, but I’ve highlighted the most important areas you should consider.
Now I’d like to hear from you!
What’s the first impression YOU want to make? Do you have any tips to add to this list?
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I always want to blend in as a girl forever.
I think I have nice legs.
I have an anecdote, illustrative, I think, of how first impressions work: At the supermarket checkout counter, the checker, myself, and another shopper got into a merry, spirited chat about a Sunday funnies comic strip from the old days. We had a really lovely time for maybe a minute, and of course had to stop so the other customers could be helped. As we separated, the other shopper said to me “You are a beautiful woman.” I didn’t say this to brag. I wasn’t dressed other than normal, with ordinary makeup. I think she said that because she recognized that I was trans, and wanted to show sisterly solidarity, and appreciation for a really fun few moments. Needless to say, I was touched to tears. So, attitude and friendliness go a long way!
Joan, thanks so much for sharing the story of your experience. I think you came across as really genuine and a great communicator. Those qualities, combined with your beauty, resulted in the compliment. I think you came across as much more than “ordinary”. You came across as a special woman!
Thank You, bobbie.
I enjoy getting out and about,so I can interact with all the great folks out there!
I enjoy being just an ordinary girl. 🙂 Although I do admit, I have FANTASTIC legs, and occasionally I like to show them off. Over the years I have put together a decent amount of outfits that allow for both. Finding deals on things like breast forms and wigs help immensely.
Also, if you just want to be an everyday girl, remember that the thrift store can be your best friend! You can find the most amazing things, often at prices that are a fraction of the retail.
I found a $150 wig once, and picked it up for $10. It’s still my go-to for everyday use. Just be faithful to yourself, and look for things that you like, and you think look nice, especially if you’ve spent time studying how other women dress. 🙂
It’s all about YOU, ladies.
Kisses,
Tracy Leigh
Hi Tracy Leigh, thanks for sharing your experiences and providing wonderful advice. I have a feeling that you are much more than an “ordinary girl.” Showing off shapely legs is a great example of how special you are. It’s nice to read your examples of those things that contribute to an attractive outfit. And your instance of finding such a perfect wig at the thrift store is great shopping. What I love most about your comments is when you say, “Just be faithful to yourself, and look for things that you like, and you think look nice….” Such a wise and important statement. Thanks for such insightful and informative writing.
I so agree with Wanda! A smile is so important when meeting people! It makes my day when I can say hit to someone I don’t know with a big smile. It is one of the most important things in my feminine life I think is great! I always get back great responses when I meet people. Here is me today trying on a dress at Macy’s! I bought it, what do you think?
The first bullet point is 100% me: Is your goal to blend in as an everyday girl? YES, absolutely. I have taken lots of photos of mid-to-late 50s women at malls, shopping plazas, restaurants, movie theaters, public library or bookstore, art gallery, or just walking in the city – and focused on gals who are slender in build with up-to-date fashion-style and hair. I want nothing to stand out/be out of the ordinary-average-everyday. Age-appropriate make-up, jewelry, and hair, with nicely coordinated clothes styles and colors – all the right fit for the venue, day, and time of day. If I can also show just a bit of cleavage “tastefully” in a cute clingy knit top with a low scoop- or V-neck, that is a very feminine first look for others to notice when I’m at a service counter or ordering in a restaurant. And YES Lucille, I always make eye contact and smile, because that’s what 90% of real women do out in public.
I agree 100%. Same with me I want to blend in and maybe stand out just a little