Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
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hello to all my gals out there .I have been waiting for a web site to show up for a long time ,I am a 55 year old women trapped in a mans body ive been busted dressed up wearing women clothing .it does not feel good for someone else see me dressed like a women .I want to come clean with everyone ,so that I can be the female and dress and live as a real women in my middle 50s. I going to start working on developing my breast with estrogen supplements and breast creams ,tell I start really showing my breasts and can not hide the breast hanging and protruding from my chest or shirt . I cant hide that , so wish all the love for another cross dresser scared to shine.
Love your advice on lingerie. However I do prefer to have a vpl when out and about, either in woman’s wear or men’s wear. I love the reaction and comments when a little panty peaks from my clothing.
Hi Lucille,I always match my lingerie. But when are these companies that make clothes for crossdressers going to make sexy swimwear for crossdressers?
Hi Holly! I just went and bought a bathing suit at Macy’s! They have regular sizes up to 18 and I believe plus size bathing suits too. I wear a 14. Here I am trying on some bathing suits the other day. I’m 72, so I didn’t want anything to risqué! What do you think? Hope this helps.
I love matching lingerie
Wow…you look amazing in that matching panties and bra…the nude thigh highs and cute shoes topp off the outfit
I love a nice “Merry Widow”
That looks so cute on you Paula! I love those!
You seem to forget that m to f, unless has had srs need to wear very tight undies to keep everything in place.! Love Paula
I hate to bring this up. But, I love wearing lingerie for my boyfriend! Okay, I said it! He loves it it when I am wearing sexy lingerie after a night out! Here I am in a black teddy I bought at Victoria Secrets. What do you think for a 72 year old? Hugs xoxoxo
I think you look great and I need to start working on myself if I hope to look as good now at 59!
The correct fit is bra is best advice ever – I was fortunate enough to find a local lingerie store where the owner agreed to fit me personally. She was so professional and explained the different styles and which she thought was best for me, and my breast forms – I’m a regular, and welcome, visitor to her shop. How I envy some of you women having your own breasts – I have nil. My breast forms are a C (38c) and I just love wearing a full cup bra which holds them perfectly and gives me female definition. Matching sets are a must and look so lovely on. Thanks again.