Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I believe we all want to stand out and for different reasons. However, we have to blend first,not only to get confidence but to help build up our personal self esteem. So this is where I believe blending is important. Once we have reached this point, then we have reached the point where we want to begin to attract attention and therefore we have that desire now to stand out.
There are many reasons to stand out and I am sure I will not cover them all.
I use to be a drag performer so it was obvious I wanted to stand out for my audience. Needless to say any more.
Now I live 24/7 and I have to not only blend with my co-workers but I do want stand out to my employer so I may be able to progress in my new career. As a result, I found a lady who specializes in helping career woman with their dressing. She has done wonders with my wardrobe. Her words to me are “do it with class and style”. Is it classy and is it stylish? If i can answers yes to this question then i purchase the item. It not only helps me in my career I find I do stand out when I am out with a date and at this stage in my life I want to stand out for my partner.Therefore I believe we go through stages of blending and standing out.
Hi Lucille,
I find this an very interesting topic.
To ‘blend in’ or to ‘stand out’ I believe depends on how you are as a person. In my opinion your clothing has to strengthen your natural appearance. So when you are (as your own gender) a strong person, you can ‘stand out’, if not, try to ‘blend in’.
That is why I try to present myself as the female personality from what I am as a man.This makes yourself more confident and natural looking is my experience. I added a picture to show what I mean by this.
Since I live in The Netherlands, I added an picture which was taken in the Rijksmuseum in Amsterdam in front of the most famous paintings of the 17th century: The Nightwatch. Although always many people are standing around, no one is noticing that they make way for a CrossDresser to take a nice picture.
Love, Bianca Holland
I want to blend in….as MTF I still like women sexually so I don’t want attention from trans chasers or men in general. I’ve been blown off by most women all my life so I think thats an easy one.
Hi Lucille
I feel that this is a tremendous topic, and it is significant for me, bearing in mind events that have happened over the last fortnight.
I would always choose to ‘stand out’; I believe that I need to be as comfortable and confident as I can be, with my womanly persona.
I consider that ‘blending in’ is not what I aspire to.
Within the last two weeks, a work colleague discovered, through accessing my “Facebook” account that I am transgendered, and did spread this information to other colleagues.
After an initial period of considering what would happen, I am so happy that people now know that I am a cisgendered woman. It means that I can be “open” and express my feminine personality without any inhibition.
Love Richard
I always feel like a woman, I become happy when I think myself a woman,, and I hate being a man,, but I am afraid about what people and my parents thought
I think if i can stand out and Pass as a woman you bet I want to stand out. But why dress as a woman just to be noticed as a dude in women’s clothes? No! I want to stand out as a woman and not as a man in women’s clothes. Blend in first so I can stand out.
Stand out… Confidence, head up, Assured and you will be respected in most situations. Dont fake the voice work with what you have and what comes natural. Of course you dont want to totally destroy it with male mannerisms and vocabulary. Best thing I learned is when I am out to take advantage of the 30 second rule. You have 30 seconds from when you meet any individual to reinforce the image you want them to perceive you as. WORKS like a CHARM if you really really have that same perception about yourself.
The last time I went out dressed, I attempted to blend. After the normal looks, I made up my mind, to stand out. I did the nylons, knee length dress, short cut wig and MaryJanes. I had a wonderful day of shopping. I learned that the only one we need to please is ourselves.