Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I answered stand out. But in general I enjoy being noticed and treated as a woman.
I said blend but to be completely truthful, it depends a lot one two things, where I’m going and my mood at that particular moment.
quand je sortait en ville je me fondait dans la masse et ne sortant que la nuit;
mais j’avait l’angoisse que l’ont me reconnaisse . alors je sortait peu je ne connaissait pas d’autre fille comme moi, sortir toute seule c’est très dure,
accompagner c’est mieux.
bye lysa
It depends where iam blending in works for me
Most of the time I just want to blend in but there are times when I really want to be noticed
Working on your make-up is very important and keeping it fresh. Sometimes dressing to impress is fun to.
1st and foremost.
Thank you for all you do. It is a joy to see and read others post.
And the help you offer. Is always dead on.
But like others it can be both for me.
Blending in. Can be the best at times.
But standing out. Can always lead to a unbelievable experience.
So its all on my mood.
I think ‘standing out’ or ‘blending in’ depends hugely on the way I carry myself, as much as what I’m wearing. And also, understanding the difference between ‘blending in’ and ‘hiding’ is critical. I’ve been out a fair bit and done a lot of different things presenting as a woman. In the early days my crippling fear of being read made me stand out purely because it was obvious I was trying to hide – hunched, glaring, looking down, avoiding all contact. With experience, I learned that a smile at someone staring is a powerful weapon; that when I walk, going at a normal pace, and using feminine sized steps, is much less revealing then trying to hurry through a crowd. And of course, wear shoes that you are 100% confident with. When occasionally I pass, it’s such a thrill and a confidence boost. But also, when I don’t pass but someone smiles at me, calls me madam, that’s also hugely liberating. Also, blending in v standing out can depend on the situation. If I’m in a restaurant or at a club, someone complementing me on my dress, my legs or similar is gorgeous. But if I’m on the street in the daytime going shopping, I just want to be one of the women in the shop, not some special case that everyone’s taking notice of! And of course in this situation, both what I’m wearing and how I’m carrying myself makes a big difference.
Ellie,
I agree with “how you carry Yourself!” I have been dressing for decades.
Sometime I want to go unnoticed just shop and try on shoes and dresses. But there are times, I do my best with my feminine style. Yesterday was such a day. I was checking out at a department store, and the young lady at the counter committed, “Well don’t you look really good today”. What a boost. I was smiling all the way home. Project a good fashion style and have fun!
Jane Weston