Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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I was walking in the mall the other day and passed easily until I went into Victoria Secret. The woman who assisted me knew and I could tell. I asked her what gave me away and she said my eyebrows as well as the curly wig. We have since become friends and she has helped me pass better. Nothing like a woman who wants to help and to guide me!
Caught myself making this mistake. I was sitting in a restaurant when a waiter looked me in the eye. Instead of smiling, I gave a very male nod. Oops!
I tend to slouch a bit but not as much when dressed and feeling relaxed.
Hi all – I think I follow all the tips mentioned in not what to do. I am retired, age 74 and live now almost exclusively as a female. My thing is to just emulate women around you and as many here have mentioned have a big smile. Here I am the other day at Nordstrom’s by the Rack trying on shoes! Always treated as a lady by the sales folks wherever I go. Have fun out there – Suzy
Ol’ SUZY Q….
“… Girl I love you, Suzy Q…” ( CCR)
GLAD to see your still out shopping…
It’s hard for me to go to DSW and Not buy my size 10 s…so much to pick from.
Love to you…Dr.T.J.
I read that in a study 78% of communication is body language.It is important.It is important also not to take it the wrong way.I think it is important to call people by their names when speaking to them.
It is also important how one comes across.People often do not remember what one says but how one makes them feel.Be relaxed and confident instead of nervous.It takes time to know people so open like a leaf.Demonstrate kindness and empathy.Smile and of course laugh spontaneously when appropriate.Attention to detail in appearance and other mannerisms mixed with good social skills often will add to the overall quality one desires.
When walking in a group of two or more, try to stay together by staying up, not ahead or behind the group. Be engaged in the conversation with the others showing your smile and laugh appropriately. Have Fun!
All of these take practice. All of the suggestions are much more attainable when you have a “girls day out” shopping or walking outside, especially as the weather is getting better in the spring.
Happy Easter, everyone!
Many of those go for men and children as well.
Janey Lee…
You look beautiful in your black and white…
Enjoy being you!
My recent ” black and whites”
Love Dr. T.J.
Prim and proper might cut in in NYC and LA
OTHER Sections of USA , You’d stick out like a sore thumb. women have a pack herd mentality and they follow what’s trendy in their environment. They have office face, mom face and fuck it I’m pooped face along with the rare leisure face. And women have scanned any room least 50 times b4 a male once. She’s looking for threats, then atmosphere temp, and then sets about moving into ranks where finds most comfortable.