Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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Lucille, Happy New Year.
It’s also very important to be courteous and non-threating while in public. Even while doing groceries it’s important to smile at other women as you navigate.
I beg to differ on a few of the above. Almost all women who aren’t ancient check their phones all the time. Rummaging thru a purse just means that there’s a lot of stuff in there & sometimes it takes a while to find it (not rummaging), lots of women do apply makeup in public, if there are mirrors there will be women doing touchups.
I’m considered a body language expert and have advised both the APA and law enforcement. First, thank you for the list and I can’t stress enough how important body language is. Be advised though, that there are a lot of exceptions and causal crossover. i.e. 17. ‘avoiding looking people in the eye’ is also something that a lot of autistic folks do as well, regardless of gender – as are numbers 6 and 8. Too, things like scanning the room is common in many people with a trauma history. I think it can be helpful to think of body language as a full length article rather than a sentence. If you only read a single sentence, you might be misled. Better to read the whole article. Thank again for the list!
I’ve found it to be polite, try to be respectful and graceful. No abrupt movements and smile. No swearing, and smile.
Don’t talk about yourself all the time and be a good listener. Do more eating than talking.
I mean do more eating than talking at the dinner table.
A lot of what you wrote about are things my mother taught me when I was younger,it applies to both male and female,no matter how you’re dressed.Love Kimberly
Sit close to the table. Take only small pieces of food with your fork or spoon. Once you pick up food off the plate, hold it over the plate to make sure nothing falls off. If it does, it will end up on the plate. Then you are safe to bring it to your mouth.
Julia
Most are very good tips. However, how do you bring food to your mouth without dropping something down the front? A nice manicure is essential. preferably with a nice color, other than black. Beautiful nails are a positive attraction as opposed to raggedy, or dirty nails. Merry feminine Christmas to all.