“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I feel passing as a women makes me feel more female then male thanks Lucile love u posts
First of all a big hug for Lucille and her programs. I have been a trans woman almost my whole life but really became so much more confident in my appearance, mannerisms, and voice since I learned about and discovered the work and products that Lucille offers.
I love going out as a woman and have realized that passing is up to the person who is judging. And, there is nothing I can do about someone elses opinion. I feel, however, more comfortable in those settings and establishments that cater to girls like and the community that supports us.
I have been out to the occasional mainstream restaurant, endured the curious stares, but if I am with someone who cares about me I am OK with it.
So to me passing is not as important as how I feel about myself as a woman. And, I love being a woman.
I will let you be the judge. do I pass as a woman? before after.
I am just starting but, I am excited. I need some friends.
Jamie
Being a true femme on the inside is part of ones personality of which is very complex. Yes we all try to look and carry ourselves in our most feminine way and to an extent a percentage of us accomplish our objectives. Natural feminine transgender personalities are of the most successful ones. I feel this goes without saying.
Our society today is more accepting about us than it was back in the late forties and early fifties. However, femme oriented males without the natural look and personality of a typical woman still have a real struggle for acceptance or being “passable” in everyday public life in today’s society. Add age (70’s) to that stigma makes being femme a more private experience..
Some good points here Michelle. I agree.
Living in Denver, Co. I don’t worry so much about whether I pass or not, however, there are other parts of the country and world where it can be dangerous if the wrong people realize that someone is not a genetic female but is presenting as one, therefore, while I m a full time transgender woman and have been for years, I do wish that I had the resources to have some facial feminization done to minimize the possibility of being outed in a situation where it could put me in danger.
Other than that, I am happy being me.
I’m a 44 year old trans woman been on e for a year, don’t care to much what others think, I stand at 6ft 2in im all ways going to stand out got big feet, have not heard of fimanation surgery for feet yet. Planing on getting testys removed by the end of the year, happy day:).
my first feminization by my babysitter when I was 6 and when she found out I could keep a secret she made me into a little girl every day my mom dropped off at her house. Mom never knew.
There was more about my life in between and current times up to now. I did start with my childhood because the time with the babysitter did have a lasting impact on my life and I am in my mid 60s now. There was also the time in between during my teen years that I would use my mom’s clothes and makeup to make myself a girl while she was at work. I almost wanted to be caught by her and a few times wanted to talk to her about it but never did.
I am a transwoman but I consider myself a woman and live full time as a woman. I have no male clothing or anything male at all left and only wear clothes made for a woman to wear and buy women’s products. I also have developed my own natural hormone induced breasts and I wear a bra and panties under my dresses every day. I ended the comment talking about my recent legal marriage to my husband, which is a ‘same sex marriage’ but we consider it a marriage between a man and a woman and I am the woman and wife in the marriage. We had a traditional bride and groom wedding and after obtaining the marriage license from the Clark County Courthouse in Las Vegas had our wedding ceremony performed at The Gay Wedding Chapel of Las Vegas. We live in Reno. I got to be a bride with a white dress and a veil and had other dolled up transwomen as my bridesmaids. So I actually have been female more than male the majority of my life. I live and pass as a woman in everyday life