Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I have been battling with my dual identity for years now, it was not until in 2008 when my own body made the decision for me.My testosterone levels disappeared and estrogen went through the roof. When I started developing breasts, (which now I am currently a 40c) and a curvy little bottom I knew then who I truly was. I enjoy everything feminine about me but still have the guilt of the transition because it cost me me two relationships (good riddance)and has put a strain on the relationship with my 21 year old son and my sisters. They can not accept the fact that this is who I am, same on the inside but developing into a sexier package. I was married in march of this year as a beautiful, loving woman who accepts me and encourages me to live my life as I am happy, Being Genaraquel. She is very supportive, does my hair and make-up we shop together, and she lets me play in her closet!!!!what a fantastic wardrobe she has. I hope and pray that all my sisters in transition can one day find someone like the woman I have in my life. God Bless and hope to get some responses,
Genaraquel
Guilt? No as far as I remember.
I’ve felt a lot of things since my childhood, but I don’t think guilt is one, or at least no what I can conswider guilt.
Back when I was still a kid I felt a little confused, and I knew with all my small being that nobody had to know about it, no because I considered something bad, but because I was affraid that my family would look weird at me and (I started at six years old, so I was a kid) stop loving me. Stop talking to me. I didn’t feel guilty, but I tried to stop doing it (crossdressing) for several years, and never could stop, so eventually I understood that that was me, and I couldn’t get rid of it.
So I felt fear, and confusion, but no guilt whatsoever. Now that I accepted myself (since last year) first as crossdresser, now as transgender, what I’ve been feeling is frustration, because I want to present myself as a woman in front of everyone, but I don’t feel confident enough on my image right now to do it. And so I have to keep hidding it. I’ve been letting it out slowly (some neighborgs have seen me on femme when I need something from my car or take out the garbage) and I felt good every time, so I know this is the correct way for me.
Since last year I’ve been feeling desperation, some depression, loneliness, and some other things, but not guilt. I need to present myself as a woman as much as I feel the need to eat or reproduce, and I see nothing wrong in trying to satisfy that need the same way.
P.D. I know I always sound angry when I talk about this matters, but that’s just the way I do it =)
Cassandra,
Know what u mean about lack of confidence, I’m the same – I fear embarrassment, and in particular don’t feel I’m getting far with my voice at all.
I have quite a big garden and do stuff in it dressed en-femme (casual) quite a bit – I live in country, nearest neighbour is maybe 75-100metres from me, I don’t know whether they have noticed anything but I am reaching the stage that I usually don’t care and maybe it would be a relief if someone knew.
U seem to have a pretty face and very feminine mouth.
Good luck.
Andrea
THANK YOU for such a good topic to talk about. I too did feel very guilty about my cross dressing but after much soul digging and seeing a doctor, I found that the problem is not mine but hers. You see she will not accept that I love lingerie, dresses, looking and smelling pretty. I am 58yo and been like this since 10yo so as I grow older I am still a closet dresser but I know I love me. The photo is only 12 months old and I still feel great, Luv Peta
It’s not so much shame as it is fear (of becoming even more socially outcast, not fear of physical violence). It’s a small town, and nobody would understand. Nobody.
Hi Everyone!
I have come to where I am very comfortable as a woman, a “special sort of woman,” a transgender woman, a transsexual woman…
…This was a gradual process for me: I stopped living as a “man” about five years ago and gradually, gently transitioned to where I am now…
…I’ve not tried to “pass” as a woman; instead, with increasing fidelity and integrity, I pass as myself, a woman: it’s an inside-out thing…
…As I gradually changed, approaching two years ago, I crossed some invisible border, and people started to see me as a woman, though I was only trying to be myself. As I saw this, I relaxed into my identity as a woman, something I’d never fully allowed myself to do. Soon after, I confirmed this by legally changing my name and gender…
…As a child, I knew I was not a boy or man, rather I was a deeply feminine person. It wasn’t until middle age that I understood what was really going-on with me; I had not thought it possible that I could truly be a woman!
So, my transition has been different than a lot of older transwomen: I never really cross dressed (though I often wore unisex things); I never had a “guy” mode and “gal” mode…never macho, I’ve always “vibe-ed” female. Once I lived as a “special sort of man” and now I live (by God’s grace) as a “special sort of woman.”
I think self-acceptance and working through my spiritual issues about this with God has been critically helpful (God, rather than opposing me, has been my greatest help). Then I have been blessed to have some cis folk who have believed in me, even as I was trying to understand all this while I gradually feminized…
…THEN: “Desensitization is a GOOD thing!” Little by little, a small change here, there, more and more, and soon, I was just abandoning myself to my transition…
…Then there was the “I don’t give a damn” moments of utter liberation where I didn’t care what people thought, or said, or did to me: I was simply going to be myself (I wasn’t hurting anyone in this).
Everyone is given ONE life to live: their own!!
AND our Maker gave EVERYONE their gender, and we are expected to live it! It just happens that mine does not align with my birth assigned sex.
I also braced myself to lose EVERYTHING to be me…that such risks were involved is part of the reason I delayed soooo long: I was afraid. Then the urgency of it all kicked-in and I couldn’t NOT become who I am.
Here is something to help you through all this: be as nice a person as you can to others. It helps your forget yourself. It leaves a positive impression on people (even if they recognize you as transgender). It helps you practice being yourself with others. Besides all these benefits, I have found that people just cut me a LOT more slack as a trans person just because I’m nice. AND being nice means makes it easier on the next trans person your benefactor meets. “Being Nice Is Just A Good Idea!”
Sooo, all that above has helped me grow to where I can say and live these things:
I treat my transsexuality as a simple fact of my existence, and honor my transition as a high-point of growth in my life, a part of my ongoing development. And I am at home in my *becoming* body and *joyful*, and when (inadvertently) recognized as transgender or even outed by someone, I respond with grace, dignity, kindness, affirming my womanhood along with my former status. Yes, I am a husband and father, and I am also a woman and a sister, a spouse and a parent. These are facts of my life, of my commitments, of my personhood.
It has been a *privilege* for me to talk to ordinary people in wonderfully positive ways about who we are as trans people. It usually doesn’t come-up in casual interactions (unless I have to mentioned my name/gender change), but it *does* come-up as a normal part of my interacting with others in more intimate ways because of my history as a “man” and now as a woman. (And also, on closer inspection, people can see that I may not have been birth-assigned female.)
I came across these the other day:
Instead of using the terms “passing” and “read/clocked,” how about the terms:
“Recognized as a wo/man” and “Recognized as transgender?”
We are not trying to “pass-ourselves-off” as something we are not – instead we are being increasingly true to ourselves. And being “recognized as transgender” is a simple fact of life for us, and SHOULD NOT connote shame – we are who we are. Transgender people have our own form of beauty, and much this is the inner beauty of character, courage and empathy that is inexorably working its way out to our outward selves. As transgender people, we are overcomers and with the special dues we “pay” we are given gifts that cisgendered people almost never have.
I have noticed that as I interact with people who “know” (and I simply assume everyone does), I simply become one of the group,valued for myself as a human being, and my trans-ness fades into just a (somewhat peculiar) part of me. Even the people who cannot accept my womanhood, find themselves treating me like a woman because I am *so comfortable* in who and what I am: a woman, a special sort of woman, a transgender woman, a transsexual woman.
May some of this be helpful to those who are feeling shame. NO ONE should be ashamed of being themselves…NO ONE! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Blessings & Joy Everyone!!!
Renée
Like all feelings that have consequences it comes and goes. I went full time July 01 2000 and was sexually assaulted in my apartment building August 02 2000. I struggled with my feelings for years before going full time, I struggled for years after the attack. I have lost family members and gained some from this change. Being who you are is priceless but it does come at a cost. I notice that a lot of emphasis is placed on our looks. This is true of all women but in a TG woman it can be difficult. Right now its loneliness, even though I am engaged and thankful for my fiancee its hard not having friends. If I was prettier I am sure I’d have an easier time but health challenges keep me from full time employment.
Odd seeing as how I am one of the best motivational speakers and educators on TG issues and many other issues. However life has its burdens and its blessings. One thing I can say is that neing who you are is worth it.
I remember as a child i mentioned i was not happy being a boy. well suffice to say that idea was beaten out of me with much gusto. I never really fancied girls but i had to chase them to fit in. Why cant you be more like your brother, was something i kept hearing over & over. Now i’m more accepting of myself. Still a long way to go though.
I don’t feel guilty about being a crossdresser. I more fear the shame it would bring to my family, so I keep it inside for my eyes only…for now!