Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.
If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.
But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.
We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.
It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.
The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.
What the heck!?
Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.
I think Iggy Pop said it best:
“I’m not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.”
There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!
I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…
Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
I’m not really ashamed, but conscious of the effect that I had on my immediate family when they deduced my leanings. My (wife) simply cant and wont accept that its normal, and therefore I am secretive about my behaviors leaving the feeling that I’m not being entirely honest. After all this time there seems no further point for explanation. I have crossed dressed since I was quite young. At the age of thirty I could pass easily, and it was fun. Now I would have to work very hard to convince anyone of my prettiness.
I wouldn’t say that I had feelings of guilt about BEING trans. Not anymore at least. However, I do struggle very much with guilt for staying in denial for so many years. It solved nothing, and caused me to lie to more and more people as they came into my life. Not to mention the many years of life as a woman that I cheated myself out of.
Although…these are merely feelings of “guilt”. One thing I will NEVER have are feelings of “regret”. Whether you believe in a divine plan, coincidence, or any other way of saying it; EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
Best of luck sisters.
I hate to admit that it is true , but I often feel very guilty or ashamed of being a man who has desires to be or feel feminine . Sometimes I feel that I am letting others down and at the same time I feel I am being weak for not owning up to enjoying this part of who I am .
I don’t feel guilty. I like who I am (mostly), and I feel more like myself, when I’m wearing womens clothes. And although I hide it, I like that my body is changing from the female hormones I’ve been taking. I just wish I could be myself openly and that people wouldn’t judge me, but I know they would. I live and work in today’s world, and I support myself, and I’m single. So I can’t be selfish, and expect the world to let me be me, right!
All my life I have been told that being transgender was wrong. My dressing cost me my first marriage and the judge let it be known in the proceedings that I was the one in the wrong. I got zero custody of my two children. Prior to my second marriage, I discussed many times my proclivity to dress. She seemed understanding and ok with it. The day after we got married she informed me that she never wanted to see me dressed in anything feminine. She made me feel like there was something wrong with me. Any time I have been able to express my feminine side was when she was out for a few hours. I have always felt guilty in having to sneak around with my other woman, myself
Once upon a time, I was ashamed, or at least uncomfortable with what I considered my ‘fetish’ at the time. As I have gotten older, I really don’t care what others think, outside of my immediate family and friends of course. My Mrs. knows and is fine with ‘RIKI’. I told her before we got married so she knows it to be a part of me. I am blessed in that respect…
Ladies, I look at it like this of ppl don’t. like it or make Comments to you Then it’s. Time to STAND UP AND SAY IF YOU DON’T. LIKE IT TOUGH SHIT,
BECAUSE THERE SO BORED WITh THERE OWN LIVES THEY HAVE TO TALK ABOUT YOU….
BUT BE URSELF AND THE HELL WITH WHAT OTHER PPL THINK OR SAY, THE SONG GOES … ITS MY LIFE AND I’LL. DO WHAT I WAMT…THE “ROLLING STONES”
SINCERLY ROCHELLE MARIE
Each of us are insecure when we are young and become increasingly confident in ourselves as we mature and get older. . . At my age, I am comfortable with my femininity and love being out in the world as my feminine self. . . I only regret that I didn’t achieve my confidence earlier in my life. . .