Did you know you only have 7 seconds to make a first impression?
If you want to start crossdressing or presenting yourself as a woman, making a strong first impression is key!
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 easy ways to ensure you leave a feminine first impression that lasts. Let’s dive in!
1. Know What You Want to Project
Start by figuring out what image you want to project:
- Do you aim to blend in as an everyday girl?
- Or do you prefer to stand out as a gender-bending fashion diva?
- Do you want to be recognized for your style and sophistication?
- Or do you simply want people to notice your great legs? 🙂
Knowing your desired image helps you align your appearance and attitude with your goals.
2. Be Aware of Your Body Language
Body language is critical to first impressions. You never want to look nervous, shy, or on the opposite end of the spectrum, arrogant.
Instead, project the image of a classy, confident lady deserving of respect.Â
For more on this topic, check out these 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
3. Wear The Right Color
Did you know that 50% of all non-verbal messages come from color? It’s true!
The colors you wear have a strong impact on how people perceive you, especially when presenting as a woman.
In this blog post, I share the meanings of different colors so you can choose shades that flatter you and boost your confidence.
4. Check your Grooming Habits
Physical attractiveness often boils down to self-care – grooming, neat hair, and stylish clothes.
Luckily, your presentation is within your control! Don’t underestimate the power of good grooming – it can make or break a first impression.Â
Here are 5 feminine grooming habits to incorporate into your routine.
5. Mind your Shapewear
The shape of your body powerfully broadcasts your gender expression in an instant. To appear as feminine as possible, consider investing in quality shapewear, such as:
- High-quality breast forms
- A waist cincher or corset
- Hip and butt padding
Shapewear helps create the right body proportions and feminine curves.
6. Dress for the Occasion
Have you ever found yourself overdressed or underdressed for a particular occasion? Not only do you feel awkward, but you stick out like a sore thumb!
Ensure a positive first impression by dressing appropriately for the occasion and adhering to local style norms.
7. Accessorize for Impact
Accessories can make or break an outfit and your first impression.
A high-quality handbag or beautiful shoes can elevate your look, while scuffed shoes or mismatched accessories can do the opposite.
Add the right touches, such as beautiful jewelry or a flattering pair of sunglasses, to enhance your feminine appearance.
What impression do YOU want to make?
There’s a lot to be said about this topic, but I’ve highlighted the most important areas you should consider.
Now I’d like to hear from you!
What’s the first impression that YOU want to make? Do you have any tips to add to this list?
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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In the day to day I live at times seem hard because of the way others percieve girls like most of us here. I think I have done a good job in my goal of passing. Still need a little work at times, but with Lucille’s wisdom I have gained a lot of valuable knowledge. I have been getting more compliments and gaining acceptance from friends and especially family. For years it seemed that I would either get ignored or family would try to “fix what isnt broken.” I am happy with myself
This is a very interesting subject and one that I am constantly dealing with. Believe it or not I have never been challenged as a woman although I suppose there can always be a first time. My first very public time out was in a sleeveless green dress in the middle of summer. I wore white sandals with a one inch heel. I wasn’t out out for very long but young men stopped in passing, university district, to comment on my long legs or just looked as they would look on any girl in the way that college guys do. I should remind you that young men just out looking can be very cruel, would have been if they had thought me other than I seemed.
My next test was a few years later wearing a knee length skirt and top that I went to the Safeway for a brief shopping trip. It was something I needed right away and just refused to change back into my guy self. I walked through the store, had a conversation with the clerk and back home again without incident.
I have always worried about being discovered, in fact, think I would be devastated if someone looked at me and called me fag. I have been addressed as a woman, in error, since I was dressed as a man as early as yesterday. She looked at me, blushed a little and then said yes sir to soothe my feelings thinking I would be offended. You see it is hard now to hide the breast that now seem to be growing again; a little bit every day.
I don’t enhance my walk, wear lots of make up or openly project my self as a woman in any way yet my hips always have a gentle sway to them. I am fortunate because they have always been unnaturally wide for a man. I start off standing straight up in conversation but soon find my hip has turned just that way and dressed as a woman would naturally pass; as a man in loose fitting slacks and shirt, for some reason, not so easily noticed, I think.
I am most comfortable these days wearing a jean skirt and tops that expose my breast, a little when I am not wearing a bra; a lot of cleavage when I do. I wear coveralls that are exactly the right size touching my hips in just the right place so that i cab be man or woman; whatever that first impression is to someone passing by.
I don’t know how a real woman feels but I feel like a woman when I dress as a woman. I act what I feel and I guess, for me, it is just the right thing for others to see and judge.
I have talked to long but I want to say is that most people, no matter how you look most times, take you at their first impression. Relax, forget that you are a man and be a woman. If they look at you, smile and do what you are doing. They soon will turn away. They might say to each other, “she looked like a man” but note they said “she”.
I know that I get told more and more Miss of Mamm all the time. I have on dress though that I now wear around the house because everyone calls me Sir when I wear that Denium Dress. Many thing it is a Denium shirt or coat. This is mostly true were the casher can not see my waist. I am also not afraid to say back when someone call me Sir to say “Excuse me!” I always try to follow these tips every time I go out. I have gotten to the point where it is now automatic in my speach, dress, and actions. I make sure that I am wearing what I need and have my handbag with me. I usually prefer to wear High heals I shoes so no problem there. I do have a severe Psoriasis so going without pantyhose or tights is not an option. I try to look my best for my age of mid fifties and not dress like a eighteen year old.
I like to think I nailed all of these when I had my doctors appointment at the University a few weeks ago. A little thing that works for me also in regards to perfume. When I want to keep it low key I tend to just use a fragrant body lotion. I also have a cotton candy body spray by Body Fantasies too that is really cheap and smells really good without being overpowering. But in regards to the “process”. My intent was to dress nice/casual. cute jeans, dressy top and my sooo comfortable black and pink jogging shoes. I love love heels and they really help with a feminine walk ( and Lucilles program helps alot too ;)but I am over 6′ so it just draws attention. One of the things I have transitioned to recently also is very low key makeup. I no longer use eye liner unless I am going out in the evening, I do use mascara with a lash curler, in regards to eye shadow I use a very light color that covers the whole lid and up to the eyebrow, out to the cheekbone and I actually use it to highlight the cheekbone and then also trace a line down the center of my nose and I do have a bit of a brow ridge and I then highlight the recessed part of that ridge to my nose. I do still need to use beard cover a little and I only use foundation to blend it out. But ALWAYS use lotion and then a primer before any makeup, if you have a beard shadow they have tinted primers that are abit orange which helps ALOT. Oops should be a different blog for all that, sorry! But anyway when I went to the doctors alone I thought I would be scared, well it was for my full dosage physical for my hormones so I was totally upbeat and sooo excited that I walked with confidence and a nice little strut ( if I do says so myself ) and I smiled all the time and eye contact was HUGE. Some people did give me a second look ( you girls will realize 99% of them say NOTHING), I just assumed they thought I was a pretty hot 6’1 Momma! LOL. But I smiled at them and looked them in the eye, many smiled back! If they were uncomfortable they looked away but I won the staring contest! I went with the intent that I belonged there just like any other female. Ohh btw my doctor is a gyno ( I have a gyno! wooot!). So I dressed appropriately for the venue, yet felt very feminine ( my jeans I have look great on me, we all should have a pair that does that, WEAR THEM TO DEATH ). Now for many of you girls here it is very difficult to not want to dress to the 9’s. I did that my first time meeting her to make an impression and I was way over dressed for a doc appt and people noticed me more, which many of you will come to realize. You would prefer to be ignored in most cases, because that means you blend! Unless you are super hot, then you will get stared at no matter what ! LOL Sorry long winded but I think a few weeks ago I hit all these goals and it was a perfect day!
Sophia Lane, You are beautiful and your confidence level is a boost to my shyness and fears! Thankyou for sharing your feelings. I also have pair of jeans that I wear constantly fton Vanity, with heels that make feel so feminine! I try not to overdress but be appropriate for the store setting. Love to shop enfemme!
You are lovely. YOu should be happy with the look you have developed. Something for me to shoot for.
Cheers!
Confidence girl, sweet confidence!! You tell it perfect!
PS For those of you that have been drinking beer and watching football instead of studying the female gender pay close attention to people like Lucile Sorella and similar web sites, they really do help.
This is the very first closeup photo of myself in 40 yrs. I’ve been a active night time trans person for the last 20 yrs but I finally graduated to living as a trans woman in the past year. I’ve spent 90% of my life studying the female gender, whether it was hair styles, walk, makeup or the general attitude of women both visible and mentally. Coming out at the age of 59 wasn’t easy, I had a lot of male habits plus the results of a hard life as a male to correct but I was prepared. My lifetime of studying women has paid off. In the last year my gender has not been questioned once in fact I had to disclose my gender to my new employer. I credit my easy transition to practise and studying, and by being 100% comfortable in my new skin. At the present time I’m tutoring 2 trans girls for their step out day. Nothing goes un-noticed whether it’s the way you grip the steering wheel to the way you sit and eat at a restaurant, nothing goes un-noticed. All in all my biggest challenge was daytime shopping and believe me the daytime is the passing test, less makeup, longer skirts, shorter (or no) heels now thats the ultimate test. Being able to go grocery shopping at 10 in the morning without creating an avalanche of stares will determine if you were really focused on that last look you took before leaving home. Good luck to everyone whether you plan to remain trans or living your life long dream of being yourself (A woman)
Hi Kimberly and Brandy
I don’t know when you posted. It’s 2017. I just found Lucilles site this March.
I’m also 59 now, and have been studying women most of my life.
His wife also knows of me. She does not approve of me, but he loves her. And doesn’t want to hurt her. So I only get out occasionally.
So many of us gurls are in the same situation. Really wish it was different for us.
kimberly thanks for the comments I’m close to you in more ways than you ever think I’m married but my wife knows ever thing I dont want to hurt her by going full time I love her very much and I can’t at this time hurt her it gets very hard to hide who you really want to be I have clothes and shoes you wouldn’t belive but no fun in wearing them only around the house sorry for going on thanks again God bless.
you look great and your natural confidence shows.
I have found that since I got my breast forms I have barely gotten a sideways glance since I always look at the people I am approaching and smile. That is unless some cute outfit catches my in the window,lol. The right accesories help tremendously as well as, I discovered with ear rings and a simple necklace.
Clothing, this is the HARD part, finding your style. It is not all jeans and tees, it takes work to look like a woman, especially a stylish one and not a tramp drag queen.
I have learned many of the major clothing stores have style consultants, most for free, some a small fee waved with purchase. I am going there knowing what I like and avoiding most of the ultra-modern trends.
PS: If your ears are not pierced you can convert most styles to clip ons with some handy widgets from Hobby Lobby or similar store. I have a dozen or so great pairs I adapted from hook or post varieties.
I pass except for one thing , Talk to me and hear my voice !
Keep the faith girl, you will get it down good. Just dont loose the faith