Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
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Idk how old this thread is but I suppose I’ll just put this out there. This photo is from last September. I’ve come along way since then and I’m super ready for my transition. Happy to be here with all of you.
Ahh, great tips as usual! I’m not so great at following some of them, though. Mostly it comes from being an ancient full-timer, who just doesn’t need a lot of the excitement now. So, for sleep I’m more of a flannel jammies and nightgown type, with lighter wear in the hot season. At least that goes with rule 7, lingerie fitting my lifestyle. I’m afraid I must admit to quite a few cotton panties, but they don’t seem to bunch up (maybe I’m just unobservant).
I suppose if I had a sexual encounter (as if THAT is likely), my fella would probably laugh.
Gotta share a quote from Wikipedia: “Although most lingerie is designed to be worn by women, some manufacturers now design lingerie for men.”
Hi Ladies – I pretty much follow all of Lucille’s tips on lingerie rules for sure. I wear lot of matching black bras and panties. But I absolutely love my lingerie for sleeping and just lounging around. I love a little teddy! Here I am. I’m 74, hope it’s not too young for me! But I love it! Hugs, Suzy
you look very cute and a nice smile.
Thanks Dawn! I appreciate your comment! Hugs, Suzy
You look divine, darling. xx
Thanks Melinda! I love to please! Hugs, Suzy
You look great….fantastic picture…..wish I looked like you do!
Thanks Jo!! Appreciate it! Hugs, Suzy
It has been so exciting I’ve been waiting so long I know It funny but it’s kind of scary .but hopefully I will meet someone nice.
But I can take of me.anyway this kellyfox is ready to let lose
And finnaly enjoy life as a trans .before the transition.
believe it or not still a virgin.but I love to dress.
But lately I have been ready to..explode .well better late than never.
Or theres always see thru panties… not the most comfy,but definately air a girl out!.. 🙂
I have been on a downsize program. My bras have shrunk from a 40 C to a 38 C and now I am on the last notch and I’m ready for a 36 C. My bra and panties only match when (I hope) somebody is going to see them. Nothing old ever! thigh highs, nude and black to match what I’m doing.
Thank you Lucille as always very good advice!
I always say, Sexy Lingerie is for ME, not necessarily for anyone else.
Hallo hope you don’t mind but you look really pretty.I am absolutely meant to be a girl which is why I hate my mega hairy legs I think 2 guys in Mother nature’s factory put me in the wrong box after smoking joints all through their break then tried to rectify it by giving me a massive Adam’s apple and hairy legs anyway I digress you look great
Thank you, Sweetie. We all have to work with what we’ve got. My Italian heritage means I spend a LOT of time shaving my . . well, pretty much my EVERYTHING. (giggle)
Hello out there ! My name is Daniel aka Evelyn took my mom’s name when she passed on
so I’m very new to all this , I am a Crossdresser as well and like to talk a little about
Shoes , I learned that because in a man’s shoe which is a 8 1\2 So I had to go two
sizes up which is a full size 10 all my heels are 10s high heel stilettos or spiked heels
And found that they are very comfortable also have pointed toes and open toes .My other
little situation is that I can’t get out of my closet because I’m with family who has no idea
Of my dark side so I’m in need of help with any tips or any recommendations that may help
Thank you so much .
Daniel, you’re not alone because as you may know there are millions of crossdressers around the world living in the closet who do what they can when they can and have to accept it.
Like me they have no choice but to fulfill their desires in stolen moments with many wishing they could become a beautiful girl like all the brave girls who successfully make the transition to womanhood.
While most crossdressers will never be able to make the switch we carry heavy hearts of secret desire and fear and can never morph into what we are inside. Its a tragedy. I would love to fully transition but for life and society but at my age I stand to lose too much I’ve worked for. Maybe in the next life I will be lucky and born a female…. sigh.
Sorry Sophie, I respectfully disagree.To me, our lives are way too valuable than to hide it in a closet. We always have a choice. But not all are bold enough to be who they are and some consider possessions and status to be their worth. And you’re right, a lifetime of fear and carrying a heavy heart is a tragedy. That’s the stuff regrets are made of.