Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I love all that you do for the crossdresser and transgender communities, but I was seriously disappointed that you chose to reference Caitlyn Jenner in your article.
Why you are seriously disappointed? It’s because you don’t agree with Caitlin points of views!?! The USA is a free country and everyone is entitled to the own opinion.
At the ripe old age of 73 now and been dressing femme for about 56 of them, it just feels so natural. I must admit I am a bit of a show off, but that is because if I get the attention, good or bad, it gives me the chance to chat and try and educate others about us.
I’ve had great fun in building and maintaining my wardrobe. Items range from the late 50’s/early 60’s to the early 00’s and many points in between. I will admit a thing for silk and have blouses, pants, jackets and suits in the material. For me, mixing vintage items with newer ones is fun. Further, I never try to be ‘in style”, but always “stylish”. The other sort of odd thing I do is that I always wear a hat or sometimes a baseball cap. Wigs are out as I live in the desert, but I find hats to be a workable alternative. It is also distinctive and occasionally I am referred to as The Hat Lady. I resemble that remark!
I don’t do low cut front or back, but I do wear short skirts, skorts and shorts. Got to remember, this IS California! At 72, I agree with Rhett Butler: “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”.
I so love the advice on this website and it’s right to the point and accurate. Kisses to you Lucille! K
hottie xoxo
never get angry in public like a guy or anywhere else..most women are mild and not overtly aggressive!…also if u can cover up worst things on your body. dont look a lot a guys unless u are interested.date only guys u know that know u are trans!.
I have had extensive surgeries, and have been on HRT for a decade or more. I have changed so much that I have been told not to admit to being a transwoman…I am a woman now!
Yes, you are a beautiful woman
A Very beautiful woman, too, thanks for sharing
Always use the ladies’ loo when you do do-do. But be prepared. Bring your own wipes and tissue. And here’s something you may not think about. Try not to sneeze or cough or grunt in the stall like the man your body. The ceramic tiled acoustics of most loos are like Carnegie Wall when you do.
I have mostly been able to feminize my body noises, like sneezes, coughs, throat clears, even flatulence. But producing a more girly burp (sometimes ya can’t avoid it) still eludes me. Any suggestions?
Yep…let ‘er rip, tater chip.