Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I love this site and I love being able to get advice on how to become a respectful and beautiful woman. I would love to have a chance to make some friends that is my toughest thing to do.
Hello there I’m interested in becoming a she-male and would like to know where i can get the advice and I’m a 50yr old guy that likes to cross dress up but I must still get the confidence to walk in a shopping mall as a woman and i have been cross dressing up for a long time
Sandra, try to find a support group of some kind! Maybe online you will find some local resources. There are groups of all kinds in the most surprising places. Look into PFLAG in your area, and attend a meeting, in either mode. If you are the least bit outgoing, you might find some women who will “adopt”/big sister you. It is much more encouraging to go out with a group.
I have been told by a few on another site that I do look fairly good. I would love to hear any other opinions. Thank you so much Lucille for sending out these newsletters. I look forward to seeing and reading them.
Renee, yes you are a pretty lady… looks and poise go a long way… and I think you nailed it.. thanks for sharing.
BTW. You have legs to die for!!
Yes I agree you look pretty good.I luv your legs!
Thank you so much Jenny. I have been told by a few women that they wish they had my legs. I took that as a nice compliment.
Thank you so much for this do and don’ts list as the links contained within these 10 ideas are invaluable.
I dress according to what looks good on me. If it’s short and tight I wear it. I am 67 years old
I dress according to what looks good on me. If it’s short and tight I wear it. I am 67 years old
I am a straight women but I have facial hair which is so embarrassing. Please tell me how to get rid of it or cover it up well.
For the most part these rules are simply guidelines that each individual needs to analyze then make a determination as to the relevance to their own unique situation. As a cross dresser with a somewhat understanding wife I can express myself in a way that I feel good about. Some of you however have no outside influences and are free to project the image you like yet others must be confined or restricted in their self expression due to outside physical,social,and economic threats. We are all striving for the same feelings of happiness and contentment no matter our differences so just do your best to love and enjoy yourself and don’t be judgmental of others.