Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
I am sending these to get an overall 2nd opinion
Hi Kayla, I think you have a beautiful look! Love the eyes and lips. And the lovely makeup accentuates both so fabulously!
Don’t talk about yourself when out with friends. Keep the conversations lively and optimistic. Your image in transformation is important
Do practice dancing in heels at home. Nothing helps more for your posture and strength than a good 1 hr dance a day. That allows for an envious crowd on the dance floors.
Do learn to eat right. Eat very little. Nothing is more glorious than being in a tight corset with high energy at a constant and sexually feeling everything. Nothing worse than thrusting fat into tight clothing.
Don’t talk about yourself in a group. Talk about others Gossip is hot.
Don’t wear the same clothes you wore to the party the night before.
Don’t hang out at the local Mexican restaurant in drag knowing there is no one there but conservative folks. They won’t get it. Unless you want to navigate a right of passage by doing so.
Do your transformation in spurts. Wear a high heel without any changes to the rest of you. It allows your style to develop from a simple change in posture.
Do practice dance in heels at home!! I highly recommend this regiment with a safe friend (safely). It develops strength, stamina and you become the envy at the clubs!
I very much adhere to all of Lucille’s tips on this subject. My mother was my role model. She was beautiful, feminine and caring. I also watch and learn from women every day on how I can present myself as the woman who I truly feel. I am now 73 and retired and love my life now as a woman. Never have any issues. Here I am trying on a dress I bout the other day at Macy’s! The key is to be very confident in your mannerisms and appearance when in public. I never have an issue. Suzy
Dear Lucille
I love this compendium of do’s and dont’s of female transformation. These are ‘life savers’. Love,Richard
Lucille is so good for the Trans community. I have been out of the closet since 1933 and made all those mistakes at first. I think the most important is a safe place. Especially if you’re just coming out, it will build your confidence. Once you think of yourself as a woman, you can have the confidence to expand your world. I just came back from Bangkok and Phuket Thailand, then a two week trip to california…not one problem! But, I’ve been a woman for a long time. I write about my early life in “Identity” and the problems and successes as a woman. Keep up the good work Lucille!!!
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Be honest to the people around you. Don’t be a creepy guy who dresses up. When you buy clothes and makeup do it openly and tell people its for you. I have made many true and good friends from complete strangers over time. These are the friends you need. Explain why you dress up. I don’t cross dress anymore, I just dress up in nice clothes!!
Souixe
Your tips are fantastic but in my experience, when I finally became totally confident in myself as a woman, when I finally stopped caring what people thought and decided to live my life for myself, I blended better. I can go out with my long blond hair, Jean short shorts, t-shirt and candles with no make up, no silicone forms and I am still addressed as Maam. And I am not a physically feminine trans woman but I am very confident, I love myself as a girl, I do have the walk, mannerisms and voice. So I think confidence is probably the most important thing a girl needs to pass.